Go To Bed
You Fall In Love With The Wrong Women Too
To End An Argument Within
She Losing Interest in
Perfect Birthday Gift For
Thinking About Her Within 30
Things That Will Help Make Your Relationship With A
Woman Work, Starting Right
Is Love? And How Do You Know If You Are Truly In
To Do With The Ring When The Engagement Has Been
She Wants To Be A Stay-At-Home
You Should Live With Her First, BEFORE You Marry
Dont Go To Bed
Theres an old saying for couples who are
arguing before going to bed: If you have an
argument, dont go to bed mad. Now
Id like to know who started that one, because
thats not always good advice. What a couple
should do IS to go to bed mad, because the next
morning your mood may have very well changed after
a good nights sleep. You both may say,
Now why were we arguing over this?
Make it a rule that there should be a time out
and to just go to bed and discuss it
the next day. In addition, tell her that you love
her, and she should say the same thing to you, even
though you two are pissed at one another.
Youd be surprised how well this works. Now
thats not to say it works every time,
especially if you are having a knock-out, drawn-out
fight, but you get the idea of it all.
When She Wants To Be A
Ok, your girlfriend, or the girl you are just now
dating says she wants to be a stay-at-home mom, and
you think thats ok, but you also dont
want to marry a possibly lazy woman. After all
there have been plenty of frustrated husbands who
have lazy wives who sit at home with bon bons,
watching soap operas. Maybe you had an ex who was
like that, which is one of the reasons she is now
So, how in the heck can you tell if these
wanna-be stay-at-home moms dont land up fat
and lazy after just so long?
How is she as a worker right now? Is her place
well kept? Is she energetic? Does she keep on top
of things? Or, does she take naps when she
doesnt need to? Does she leave the shopping
cart in the middle of the parking lot because she
is too lazy to take it back up to the store? Take a
good look at her lifestyle now. That, SHOULD be a
pretty good indicator for you.
Now thats not to say she may change over
the years, but if she is a hard, energetic worker
to begin with, its a good chance she will
continue to be so.
One guy told me that he has a girlfriend who has
three housedogs, and that her place is always a
mess. Well, if she cant pick up after three
dogs, is she going to pick up after kids, do the
cooking, AND do the cleaning on a continuous basis?
Of course its different from cleaning up
after dogs, but not by that much. And after the
first year or so of raising kids and taking care of
the house, she may just land up being a pain in a
mans butt. Who knows.
Is She Losing
Interest in Me?
Do you think that your girlfriend is losing
interest in you? Or maybe you think that the
relationship is just settling down after so many
weeks of being together, and its just natural
that the newness and excitement is over, and
its supposed to be like this? Well, the
following is a simple way to know for sure.
And if you are thinking: Shes not around
as much anymore. She doesnt want to come over
as much as she once did, then you probably already
have your answer.
After all, if you arent as interested in a
woman as you once were, wouldnt you act the
same way? Men and women act the same way when they
are losing interest in someone.
Now of course she could be busy, or she is just
the type of person who thinks seeing her boyfriend
only a couple of times a week is enough, but if she
isnt even making enough time for you for even
that many times, what does that tell you?
There are always ways to make time for one
another. Having dinner and / or lunch together (she
has to eat, right?), spending evenings together
when she is going to be home relaxing in front of
the TV (why not do it together?), and other things
like that. So her being so busy is not an excuse
she can use.
Test the water, by distancing yourself from her.
If she doesnt come back and ask why you
havent been more available, and / or she
doesnt suddenly make time for you, there is
Yes, you can talk to her about it, but what if
she is one of those overly-nice women who
cant tell you the truth? Im just
not that into you anymore. Ouch! Youll
give her the benefit of the doubt, and even more of
your time could be possibly wasted.
Prepare yourself in case she really isnt
interested in you as much as she once was, and be
strong enough to move on.
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Do You Fall In Love With
The Wrong Women Too Easily?
Do you land up falling in love with her after you
have had sex with her? Well, youre not the
only one. A LOT of guys do. And what usually
happens after, what, six months? Yup, she lands up
not being the one for you after all. Or, she has
decided that you arent for her. Ouch! And how
long does it take for you to fall out of love with
her? Or, are you still in love with the last one?
Its not a good feeling. I know.
Theres a simple technique that will work
wonders for you, which has worked for who knows how
many men before you. Though you are probably going
to hate it. Are you ready?
sex with her until you know more about her.
Hey, think about it. You NEED to know more about
this woman if you do have a tendency to fall in
love after sleeping with her. Read this chapter
again. No, STUDY this chapter, and be more on solid
ground to see if the two of you are right for one
another. And yes, I know, who knows if two people
are right for one another. There are couples
breaking up after years together, but you should at
least know that the both of you are compatible
enough for a relationship where there is hope.
Too many couples get together for the dumbest of
1.) Shes lonely, and she is tired of
dating, so she will settle with him.
2.) Hes lonely, and he is tired of dating,
so he will settle for her.
3.) The sex was good for him, so shes the
4.) They had fun together those first couple of
dates, but their incompatibility differences bogs
them down over time. They stay together because of
the fun they had on those dates, hoping that it
will come back somehow.
5.) They are with one another mainly because
they like each others looks.
Once you get your act together, you will find
that you will be able to better control this heart
on your sleeve.
Why You Should Live
With Her First, BEFORE You Marry Her
You would think that couples living together first
before getting married would stand a better chance
in having a happy and healthy marriage. They get to
see how one another acts after so long of living
together 24/7. After all, its just common
sense, isnt it? But not according to many
Ph.D.s studying marriage and family life. But
not that many Ph.D.s use their commons sense.
Theyre college educated, but it doesnt
mean much if they dont use their common
In 2004, a Penn State University study found
that living together before marriage is, in fact,
linked to higher rates of separation and divorce.
Research psychologist Catherine Cohan, a co-author
of the study, says the data suggest it has a lot to
do with the easy-out situation living together
provides, as well as with the type of people who
choose to live together before marriage. "Evidence
indicates that people who live together have more
liberal attitudes toward divorce, are less
religious and lead unconventional lifestyles," she
says. Often, people who choose to live together do
so for convenience, not love. Living together is so
strongly associated with divorce, Cohan says, that
"if you take two identical twins, with all things
being equal, the twin that lived together before
marriage is twice as likely to get divorced as the
Cohan is right on much of what she said, but
lets not say that living together first is a
bad idea just because of these kinds of couples who
are getting a divorce. I mean, come on.
Back in 2004, a major study and research program
was put together by Ph.D.s from the
University of Wisconsin. It showed that a higher
divorce rate existed among couples living together
Many such studies have been conducted by
Ph.Ds, but, here is where they arent
using any common sense. That stat is probably true,
but its only because more married couples
lived together first, as opposed to the ones who
Its estimated that at least three times
more couples live together first. So, for example:
You have 9,000 couples who lived together first,
where as you have 3,000 couples who didnt. If
you look at the divorces from those 12,000 couples,
then of course you are going to get a higher rate
of live-ins who got a divorce. Its just
Also, could it be that many couples living
together are the ones who are more likely to get a
divorce anyway? The simple fact of living together
is just a coincidence related to divorce, rather
than the actual cause.
Another such study came out in 2004 from the
University of Denver. The Ph.Ds came up with
two reasons why live-ins land up getting a
1.) Once a couple starts living together,
its harder to break up the relationship.
Either the man or the woman isnt really that
happy and satisfied, but since he or she spent so
much time living with their significant other,
buying furnishings together, maybe having a child,
etc., that person is more reluctant to leave. They
have settled. They let themselves get
in deeper and deeper, and the next thing they know,
they are at the alter hoping for the best.
2.) Many feel pressured to get married, because
they have been living together for so long. Between
the significant other and / or the family, that
person relents. Its usually the men who are
pressured. Many cases are when its both the
man and the woman who are pressured into marriage
by their families. Ph.D.s arent much
for common sense, but they are correct on these two
They are right. Those are the main reasons why
live-ins who get married often land up getting a
divorce. Living together first isnt what
causes a divorce, its the couples themselves
who arent thinking. Again, lets
dont throw out the idea of living together
first before getting married just because so many
couples dont think before walking down that
A lot of people dont really pay attention
to what their mate is really like inside, and, if
he / she will make a great spouse, for life. They
tend to ignore the little things that bother each
other. Then, after time, those little things turn
into bigger things. Those little things are part of
what tears a marriage apart. Its like a
windshield with a tiny little crack in it. If it
isnt fixed, as time goes on that little crack
will become bigger, and bigger, and bigger, until
finally the windshield has to be thrown out. Just
like the marriage. It doesnt even matter if
they arent living together, because they are
more than likely destined to get a divorce anyway,
because, they werent meant to be together for
the rest of their lives.
An unbelievable amount of live-in couples say
that the problems they are having are too
insignificant, and that things will
improve after they get married. Again,
lets not throw out the idea of living
together first because of couples like these.
Not one Ph.D. has bothered to mention any of
this when they came up with their so-called
research and them saying that couples
should not live together first. As usual, they
dont use common sense.
Having weekend sleep-overs wont work
either because most of the time one or both will be
on their good behavior, and, its not long
enough. A weekend sleep-over is far different from
every single day. So, what about those couples who
change after they tie the knot?
are many, many couples who have lived together
first and then later married, only to get a divorce
soon after, because, things changed.
They have only themselves to blame.
Things Change After Getting
Married/Testing One Another/Many Couples Compromise
By Getting Engaged While Living
Perhaps you have heard of the saying,
things change after getting married?
Ph.Ds say that another reason why so many
live-in couples get a divorce is because things
change after getting married. Just minutes before
walking down that aisle or after getting married,
the thought of, we are now going to spend the
rest of our lives together hits one of them
or both of them at the same time. It sinks in. But
what difference dos it make if they are living
together or not? That realization of living
together for the rest of their lives is still going
to hit them, regardless.
Many, NOT ALL, people actually do change when
living together for a certain amount of time. Think
about it: Two human beings living together 24/7.
Practically all people do change, whether it is for
the better or for the worse. That is what living
together will conclude for a couple, whether it
will turn for the worse or for the better.
Isnt it better to say, "she wasn't like
this before we moved in," than, "she wasn't like
this before we married"?
This is where getting engaged while living
together is such a great idea. Its a great
test to see if they are REALLY ready for
FOR LIFE! Call it a reality
check, if you will.
If he wants to live together first before
getting married, and she doesnt, or vice
versa, they can compromise. They can live together
for, say, six months, and then get engaged. That
way they are one step closer to being more
committed. If the partner refuses even that, they
arent being fair. They arent even
willing to compromise. Now THAT is a red flag
waving, JUST from that. After all, a marriage is
about compromising, and if the partner cant
even compromise on that one, well, they better
think long and hard before getting married.
Some of you may be saying, Well, I
dont want to test my girlfriend. A
relationship is not about testing one another.
Its about love and commitment.
One woman said to me, if you go into it as a
trial, or to test one another, that's what it will
be... and then maybe it is more likely to fail, but
if you do things for the right reasons there's no
real reason to think it will.
A couple can go into it as a trial / a test, AND
for love. You may not realize this, but it is about
both. Its about seeing if the both of them
are really ready for a lifetime of commitment, AND
its about love. Listen, you may be turned off
by the word test or trial,
but lets face it, it IS about testing. It IS
about a trial to see if they are right for one
another. A couple needs to know if they are really
ready for a lifetime commitment. Many couples say
to one another, lets test one another
to see if we are right for one another,
whether it be living together or whatever. There is
nothing wrong in that. It is for the right
Living together first is the first test. Getting
engaged and setting a date a year or so later to
get married to see if things change is
the second test. Living together while engaged for
that year, or whatever the time amount is, is the
last test. You can love one another and still see
if you are right for one another.
You may be ready, but dont you want to
know if she is REALLY ready for it also?
Thats all you need, is a (yet another)
divorce down the road. Think about it!
If you arent ready for marriage but you
want your future girlfriend to move in with you,
but she has different views, explain it to her the
same way it was explained to you here. If she still
isnt convinced, nothing will. Date other
women until you find the one with common
Ten Things That Will Help
Make Your Relationship With A Woman Work, Starting
The University of California did a study throughout
the late nineties on 160 couples on what qualities
they possessed that made for years of happy
marriage. Psychologist, Robert Levison headed up
MANY long-married couples have said theses very
same things you are about to read are the reasons
why they have been happily married for so long.
Whether you are looking for a wife or a live-in,
memorize these ten things!
1.) Topping the list: Open affection for one
another (I Love you). Making each other laugh and
feel good. Humor in a relationship was very
2.) Being a team on things.
3.) Shared values, or showing an interest in
their partners values.
4.) Lasting physical attraction. That is, not
gaining weight or changing his / her appearance.
These couples dont believe in the typical
saying: Well, Im still the same in the
inside. when that person gains weight,
because that person isnt the same.
5.) Trust and respect.
6.) Both partners thinking sex plays an
important part in a relationship.
7.) They praise each other.
8.) They listen to each other.
9.) They are supportive of each other.
10.) They treat each other the same way they did
when they were first dating. This is the best piece
of advice. Many times its usually the man who
relaxes over that. He stops communicating like he
once did, he stops taking her out to dinner (like a
date), he stops buying her little things, and he
stops telling her how he feels about her.
Were you like this with all your past
relationships? If you werent and if you
didnt get as much sex as you would have
wanted, this was probably the reason. She wants
things from you, and you want things from her. THIS
IS HOW A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP WORKS.
Just like marriage, living with that wrong
person can be a disaster if you find that you had
made a mistake in asking her to move in with you
too soon...before knowing for sure if she is the
right one for you. Just knowing she is there when
he gets off work can depress a lot of guys. They
feel trapped, and then they have to go through the
mess of having to move out.
Date her at least six months before thinking
about moving in with her, while all the time paying
attention to those little red flags that may pop
up. The more red flags that pop up, the longer you
have to date her before moving further.
If you are looking for a serious relationship, I
strongly urge you to read, and study the following
ARE YOU THE ONE FOR ME? by Barbara DeAngelis,
Ph.D. You may not care to much for the author, but
her book is one the best out there because she has
listened to a lot of men who have made simple
blunders in relationships. You will hear and learn
from them, through her book.
PRE-MARRIAGE QUESTIONS; GETTING TO KNOW YOUR
LIFES MATE, by Bob Biehl is a book that also
may be of help. Just asking yourself the right kind
of compatibility questions about you and your
potential spouse, and answering yourself honestly,
can make a big difference. This book helps you in
asking the right kind of questions.
THE SEVEN PRINCIPLES FOR MAKING MARRIAGE WORK,
by John Gottman, Ph.D. Here is another book that
helps you ask those right questions. Too many
couples who fall in love dont feel that they
have to ask questions to know for sure. They are so
much in love and get along great wherever they go
that they are blinded from the fact that they may
not REALLY be right for one another
Love can take you just so far. All of us make wrong
decisions when in love.
Study these books, and others like them, and
dont take them for granted. Too many men
have, thinking only women read such books, and now
look at their situation
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these books and also treat them just like study
What Is Love? And How
Do You Know If You Are Truly In Love?
Can you believe that there are books out there that
are on the subject of trying to define love? Why?
Who cares? Love is just another emotion that
we feel. Its just like anger, sadness and
happiness. It derives from our brain. Why try to
understand how our brains work? What needs to be
known is if you are REALLY in love. After all, look
how many divorces have come about because the love
really didnt exist.
Many think that it isnt real love when a
schoolboy falls in love with the pretty little
girl. Puppy love is the term coined.
Its not real love. I beg to differ.
Love, is love. That emotion that comes from a small
boys part of his brain is the same with the
grown man. The grown mans brain transmits
that very same emotion. Love is love. Its an
emotion experienced by all ages, that comes from
the same part of the brain. Just like it is with
sadness, happiness and anger. Are these three
emotions that come from a child any different from
an adults? I always shake my head in
disbelief when people think that children
arent really in love. If the brain transmits
that signal, they are in love! What they should be
saying is that they are too young to be in love.
Or, they dont know why they are in love with
each other. And this brings us to what we are here
now to explain, so you stand a better chance in
having a very successful relationship with a woman.
First know if you are in truly in love with her,
and then know why.
There are a lot of men out there with that wrong
woman, because they are thinking with their
hormones. They think they are in love with her, but
the reality is that they are thinking with their
dicks. Overtime with her he is delusional into
thinking that he is in love with her, when in fact
he just, likes her. So what, you may think? Well
this is how many marriages started out, and you
already know the outcome of nearly all of them.
Living together is one thing, you can just pack up
and walk out that same day, without any lawyers,
but marriage is something totally different.
So, when determining if you are in love with a
woman, your dick must not do the thinking. A
mans hormones are very powerful. Its
probably more powerful to contain than a smoker
trying to quit smoking. So, having sex with a sweet
and thoughtful woman who cares for you can trick
you into thinking that you care for her back. Most
men dont think. They just go with the flow of
the relationship. Only later, when they are married
do they start to begin to wake up. There will be
arguments in a marriage. Its part of life
with one another, but since he doesnt REALLY
love her, he begins to feel different towards her.
He will become less friendly, more resentful much
quicker. Eventually they break up. They would have
stood a far better chance had the love been in
Okay, how can a man tell if he is in love with a
woman? Actually it is a simple, and will probably
be a pretty silly technique to many of you. But it
is a very reliable test. The next time you
masturbate and ejaculate, go back and lie down and
ask yourself the following questions. Do I still
want to be with this woman? Do I still want to
spend my free time with her? Do I want spend most
of my time alone or with the guys? Do I care if she
comes over tonight or not?
And am I
indifferent on it? If you are coming up with all
the wrong answers, you are not in love! You took
the hormones out of the picture after you
ejaculated. Go back and lie down after ejaculating,
and seriously think about her. Analyze your
feelings at that point. THIS, is how you can tell
if you are in love with a woman. Pretty silly?
But it works! Dont scoff
or take this lightly.
What happens if this isnt happening with
one woman after another, and its been years
now? Dont force it. You cant force
love. You cant say the hell with it and marry
her, just because she is sweet and thoughtful
towards you, or you think its your time to
get married, and then hope for the best. I can fall
in love with her, over time. Remember, living with
a person 24/7 you dont REALLY love can have
serious consequences. You can grow to dislike her,
and since you will feel trapped in the marriage,
you will become a bit of a prick to her, and then,
in turn she will eventually change from this sweet,
thoughtful woman into a bitch. Think about it. If
you like to gamble, take that chance. Who knows, it
may very well work out, but just remember about
that unjustly alimony and child support you may
have to pay.
The Perfect Birthday Gift
Ok, so maybe its her anniversary, or
Valentines day is once again at your
whatever day it is, youre hating
it just the same. So, what is the perfect gift for
her? And for you guys who hate to shop, never mind
opening your wallet, what is the quickest gift to
get without al the hassles?
Thats easy! You ready?
Get nice-looking stationary, in her favorite
color and write her a love note. Yeah, yeah, I
puke, but hey, this is perfect.
Write down what you first thought after seeing
her pretty face for the first time. Put down how
you felt spending that first night with her. Put
down how you grew to love her over time, and what
she did to make you fall in love with her. And
lastly, tell her how you feel about her now.
Do you have cologne that she loves?
the stationary a couple of squirts. Roll it up and
tie it in a colored ribbon. Yes, I know, but we are
talking about women here. They love stuff like
Combine that with her favorite flowers and one
more gift. That last gift you are going to have to
decide on. But no matter what it is, that love
letter will make her day.
Stop Thinking About Her
Within 30 days
The worst feeling a man can go through is when he
is trying to get over a breakup with a woman. Many,
many men are familiar with that same feeling. That
empty, hollow feeling, deep inside the gut. The
memory of your own experience is making you feel it
right now, isnt it? And to make it worse this
can last for weeks.
For months! Some men
cant concentrate on their work. Some men,
believe it or not have lost their jobs because of
this. They skip days from work because they just
couldnt get out of bed. They wake up with her
on their mind, they go to bed with her on their
mind, they cant do anything throughout their
day without thinking about her at least once every
Yes, it can be that extreme for some men. A
breakup from a woman can literally tear a grown man
down to nothing. It has even made men sick. Their
mental state is low, which in turn makes their
bodies weak. Their immune system breaks down. Love
is an addiction. It is just like the smoker, trying
to quite smoking. It is just like the drug addict,
trying to quit the habit. Yes, love for another can
be that strong with some people. Its an
Like a drug!
What you are about to read, without a doubt, the
BEST way to fall, out, of love with a woman. It is
a simple exercise that has guaranteed results. But,
it is guaranteed only if you use it. Too many men
are given this simple solution, but for some odd
reason they dont use it. They read it, say
that this is some great advice, but
they dont even use it. They read a book that
is written by a therapist, and they then think that
this is a very good book that will definitely
help, but they dont use it! They set it
down somewhere where it will collect dust.
Whats worse is when they practice the given
advice, but they STILL think about her, and then
they turn around and say it is crap.
It doesnt work. So, the following is
what you do with it. It is up to you.
Have you ever noticed that the more you think
negative about something, the harder it becomes to
stop thinking about it when you want to? The harder
you try, the worse it gets. Repetitious negative
thinking on anything settles in our brain. Of
course positive thinking can also remain with us,
but it isnt nearly as powerful as negative
thinking. I wonder why that is. Have you ever heard
of Chemical imbalance? There is a
chemical in and around our brain that helps
transmit thoughts to us. If one was to constantly
have negative thoughts about something, the normal
chemical balance then becomes imbalanced.
It is hard to explain how this works, but this
has been proven by the medical establishment (They
have shown the actual changes of a brains
chemical imbalance through an MRI scan, which is
more of a sophisticated X-Ray). It is either up to
the individual, a psychiatrist or a psychotherapist
to bring proper balance to the brains
chemical, and that is done only with positive,
constructive thinking. It is simply amazing how
simple thoughts can correct a brains chemical
imbalance, isnt it? No surgery, no
just positive, right thoughts! In a
way its magical the way it truly works. And
again, for some odd reason positive thoughts
doesnt change our brains chemical
balance that much. Its strange how our brain
works that way.
On a side note: There are men who become bitter
towards women because they keep meeting the wrong
ones. They then start bashing them, saying that
women dont like nice guys. Also,
they only date very pretty women, but the only
thing going for nearly all of these types of women
is their looks.
They are nothing but a
mans worst nightmare. These guys date women
like this over and over again, and then their
thinking about women slowly erodes. They categorize
women as basically all the same. They have less
patience with women. They are too quick to judge
them harshly when they dont do something
right. The word bitch is their favorite
word. On top of that, they read Internet message
boards where other men think the same way. They
read each others messages, thus cementing
those negative thoughts about women even more. This
is a form of a brain-chemical imbalance. Overtime
these guys brain chemical actually change.
Some even become border-line psychotic.
Repetitious thoughts in a different manner from
what you usually are thinking is the only cure for
getting over a woman. Whether it is from a break up
from an ex or for a woman you cant have, who
you constantly fantasize about. And thats
another thing, how many women have you constantly
thought about but couldnt have because they
were already were taken, or they werent
attracted to you in that way? That too can be VERY
frustrating. No more will this happen to you. You
will learn the same exercise on how to stop this
futile fantasizing over a woman you cant
I know what you are thinking right now. Well
its repetitious thoughts that put me here in
the first place. Yes, but those thoughts were of
good things about her. Her smile, her scent, the
times you had sex with her, and the happy
conversations you had with her. The fantasies were
also pleasant, and especially sexual. Right? It is
fueling your love emotion. When trying to
distinguish a fire, its like throwing gas on
it, instead of water. It isnt on anything
negative whenever you think about her.
it? Nearly all of the times it was on positive
things during that relationship. That is another
thing love can do. It blocks out the bad things
about a person. It makes you think that she
wasnt THAT bad. You make excuses for her
actions. Right? Again, its like being on a
Just like constant negative thoughts about
something and someone, love can also change the
brains chemical balance. This too has been
proven by the medical establishment. Its a
deadly combination when you combine constant
pleasant / love thoughts for someone, with the
emotion of love. Its a powerful one two
punch! Think back to the time you were in love with
a woman. You ignored all the red flags, or you made
excuses for her actions. Only later, when you got
her out of your system, did you wake up to the fact
that she was indeed a real bitch. You thought to
yourself, How could I have been so stupid to feel
like this for her?! What was I thinking?! Right? It
was like a drug for you.
AND, and the constant thinking about someone is a
lethal combination. And for many men it can be as
hard to quit as it is for a smoker when trying to
Now it is time to explain this exercise that can
eliminate these feelings and thoughts you have
about her. Once you finish, you will not believe
that such a simple thing can cure you. But it can!
Its up to you to stick with it in order for
it to work. In her book, HOW TO FALL OUT OF LOVE,
Dr. Deborah Phillips explains the same simple
exercise. Psychotherapists call this Behavior
therapy. It has been around for more than 50
years. I have never heard of it before. I naturally
did it on my own with the women in my life, and it
worked great. Only later did I discover it in this
book and realized that this technique has been
given a name, Behavior Therapy, and
that this has been taught for years and that that
this is actually taught by Psychotherapists,
through psychotherapy. (Psychotherapy is a
treatment of mental and/or emotional disorder,
which has been brought about through constant
Okay, so what is this behavior
therapy and how can it help you? Behavior
therapy is a term coined by Psychotherapists that
means to replace desirable thoughts for someone or
something with undesirable ones, and vice versa.
Are you in a stage right now where you are having a
hard time getting over an ex? Are you always
thinking about a woman who you know you cant
have, but you keep thinking about her nevertheless?
And these constant thoughts you have are always
positive, and of course, its sexual in
Combine your hormones into it and you might be
thinking that you might as well wave the white
flag?! Well, not yet. Its time to start
practicing behavior therapy. Through time and
dedication you will actually stop thinking about
her. The thoughts that at times gives you that
deep, hollow feeling inside your gut will
disappear. You will actually be able to rid
yourself of this sickness, and thats what it
is, within 30 days, if not sooner. You will not
believe how easy it really is! Once you get her out
of your system, you will then ask yourself why in
the hell you felt like this for her in the first
place. You will be kicking yourself and calling
yourself stupid for feeling like that. It is indeed
an amazing transformation. Okay, lets begin
Whenever you think of her, its thoughts of
her pretty face, her nice, white smile, her long
pretty hair, her scent or a scene where you two
used to make love in her or your bed run through
your mind. Am I right? And how many times did the
same sex scene go through your head with that woman
(co-worker, neighbor, cashier, even a movie star)
you would like to be with but you know you
cant have? Well, having constant thoughts
like that is, of course, the problem. Time alone
will eventually help you, Time heals all
wounds, but why wait weeks, maybe months
before she is out of your system? The only fast
cure is through opposite thinking of someone.
Okay, the next time you have these positive and
pleasant thoughts about her, replace them with just
the opposite. Begin by sitting down and writing
down all the negative things about your ex. Things
that you have forgotten or you are ignoring or
making excuses for, because of your drug-induced
love for her. Write EVERYTHING down, and in detail.
Make a short journal of her and the bad days you
had with her if you have to, but do it! You have to
bring everything negative about her for your eyes
to read. Make the descriptive in short, but in
detail paragraphs, for easier reading, because you
are going to be reading it over and over again.
I dont know why, but so many men are with
real bitches. I dont get it. What is more
puzzling is when they still think about her
constantly, even after they break up. Love is a
very powerful emotion. Start a journal on her. That
one night when she pushed you away selfishly when
you wanted to make love to her.
that you always think about sex, when it was three
days ago since you last made love.
that down. Then write how it made you feel about
her. Try to remember those feelings. Try to
remember the times you were down about something
and she was more concerned about her feelings and
rarely listened to you. Also write those times down
and how you felt about her. Etc.
Then, when you got it all down on paper, no
matter how insignificant it is, you can read about
the REAL her whenever you think about her. No more
thinking about just those good times with her, that
didnt happen that often anyway. Carry the
journal around with you and read it every time you
think of her. Try to visualize those times she was
a real bitch to you, or whenever she acted like a
little princess. Visualizing it like this is a
great way to healing yourself from her. Sit down in
a quite place, reading your journal, and then start
to visualize those nightmarish times with her. You
have to bring yourself back to reality about this
woman. This is your first step in your behavior
The next step is to think of her in an ugly,
maybe a vile way. When you think of her do you
think of her pretty, white smile? The next time
that visual comes to you replace it with her having
yellow teeth (or, without ANY teeth). Have you ever
seen someone with brown, or yellow teeth? Get that
picture in your head of her. It will take some time
to get this down, since you have thought about her
white smile so many times before. What about her
long, flowing hair? For now on picture it as
greasy. She hasnt washed it in weeks. You can
smell the dirty oil in her hair. You can feel the
grease in your hands when you touch her hair. Are
you getting that visual? How is it making you feel
right now as you are envisioning her in greasy
hair, smelling her dirty hair and feeling the
grease? Now, combine it with her yellow, brown
This still isnt enough to help some men,
so they have to take it up a notch. They have to
think vile things of her. Envision her with shit on
her face and in her hair. Envision her having sex
with a dog in her bed, and liking it. Yes, this is
vile, but these thoughts have helped men who were
to the point of being ill anyway because of their
constant thinking of their ex. Sometimes you have
to think vile. Keep repeating thoughts like these
every time you think of her. Replace the desirable
thoughts with the undesirable thoughts. Before you
know it, she is out of your system. Oh, you will
still think of her, but not in that way
Now, what if she wasnt a bitch to you, but
it just didnt work out between you two. You
are still in love with her, and you are always
hoping that she will call you, wanting to
reconcile. Well, leave out the journal and instead
think of her as the above examples. It doesnt
matter if she is a really nice person, because it
is the only way to effectively and quickly get her
out of your system. Dont think of all the
nice things she has done for you. Replace them with
made-up visions where she was a bitch. Envision her
being a racist. Run scenes through your head of her
calling black people niggers and the
Orientals slant eyes. Make her an ugly
person. Replace the good with the bad. Before you
know it you are no longer thinking of her in a
Repetitious thoughts in this manner will have
you healed in no time. Of course it isnt
going to be easy in the beginning. You have to
train your brain to start thinking of her in an
ugly and negative way. It will take time. As you
practice it, it will become easier and easier each
time you do it. Your thoughts of her will become
weaker and weaker, and the next thing you know you
are no longer thinking about her in that way.
Its up to you to make it work.
Id like to leave you with two final
thoughts. If you take yourself out of the dating
market because you are always thinking about the
woman with whom it didnt work out, you
wont find the one who is truly the right one
for you. That next person who is right around the
corner could be the mother of your children. She
could be your loving partner for the rest of your
you wont see her if you have
your head down. Youll walk right by her.
And lastly, the most important relationship you
have is the one with you. Youre only lonely
if you arent there for you. Think about this
for a while, before you move on to the next
chapter. Write down these last two paragraphs, and
tape it to your bathroom mirror and your
refrigerator, so you can see it all the
How To End An Argument
The number one reason why men don't like to have
sit-down discussions with their mate over a problem
is because it can, and quite often does stretch to
2-3 hours. Men like to solve it, and then move on.
Women like to talk, talk, and talk about it some
more. If you are tired of the hours-long
discussions, this article is for you.
Compared to our other articles, this one will be
a short one. All you need to know are a few basic
tips that, if followed will end ANY discussion /
argument before it hits that first hour mark.
The first thing you have to keep in mind is that
if she isn't satisfied that you get it, and / or
she feels that you don't understand her feelings,
she will keep repeating herself, which, of course,
will turn it into hours of discussion or
Put yourself in her shoes. How would you feel if
you brought up a problem you had with her and she
didn't understand your feelings? Or, worse, she
rolls her eyes and sighs, like you may have done
with her many times before. You would keep
repeating yourself, right?
Put yourself in her shoes. Try to understand her
position. Let her know that you do understand where
she is coming from. And...MEAN IT! If you don't,
she will see it in your face, which, again, will
have her repeating it over again.
Put yourself in her shoes and ask her to put
herself in your shoes. You both should see the
discussion / argument from one another's point of
view, and then go from there. Break your thoughts
and feelings down into detail for her, and have her
do the same for you.
Doing this one little thing works wonders. That
is, if the two of you have an open mind and aren't
argumentive, just to be argumentive.
If she keeps repeating herself, ask her, NICELY,
why she is doing it. "Honey, I must be missing
something. Why are you repeating this over again?"
Once she tells you, then appease her by doing what
she wants from you. Just like what you would want
If it hits that 30-minute mark, and there is no
end in sight, stop the discussion by suggesting
that you two take a break, and resume it later on
in the day. You give your brains a time to relax,
so you can see the discussion from a fresher point
of view. This also works wonders.
It's pretty similar to when you study too much
on something. What usually happens? Your brain gets
tired and it isn't as functional as it was in the
Any problem can be talked over and worked out
without it having to take hours to do so.
It's just these three simple little things that
will have a discussion or argument end within
minutes of it starting.
If it doesn't, one or both of you aren't being
reasonable, aren't listening and / or you don't
have constructive discussions / arguments.
What To Do With The Ring
When The Engagement Has Been Broken
You've got yourself an expensive engagement ring
that the jeweler won't take back, for whatever
reason, and you don't want to take it to a pawn
shop because you won't get what it's worth...so,
what can you do with this now pain-in-the-butt
engagement ring? You don't want it in your sight
anymore so you want to get rid of it, like right
Here are a few suggestions from jewelers:
- Ask the jeweler if he'll take the engagement
ring on consignment.
- Run an ad in the paper, obviously. Then go
to a jeweler to have a written appraisal
If you advertise an expensive engagement ring in
the paper, you risk being robbed. The chances are
are pretty slim of this happening, but
nevertheless.... Make sure there are others in the
room with you, or, tell the prospect to meet you at
the jewelers, where you got the appraisal done.
- Get a written appraisal, then donate it to
charity and take a tax
- Melt down the engagement ring and have a
wonderful Mother's day gift created. Or, have
another ring, or a piece of jewelry created from
it. Perhaps create another form of engagement
ring for the woman in your life?
- Auction it off at an auction house in your
The "Nice Guy"
Youve heard all about how "nice guys" finish
last, that most women are more attracted to the
"jerks" and "bad boys." There are A LOT of men out
there who think that women are more attracted to
theses kinds of men. Yes, there are women out there
like that. But, why is this? What is the REAL
answer behind this subject on "nice guys?" If you
have a problem in this area, or you just want to
know the reasoning behind this, read on.
First of all, let's begin by stating that there
are not that many women who are attracted to the
jerks or the bad boys. This is just something that
is blown way out of proportion; greatly
exaggerated. It just seems that way. Reading about
this time after time after time on the Internet and
in magazines and books just adds to the
exaggeration, making it seem like that there are A
LOT of women who are attracted to the jerks and bad
boys. Its a form of brainwashing. After so
many times of reading and hearing it, men, too
many, then begin to believe it.
Also, to add to this, too many men run into too
many women who dont have a good head on their
shoulders. They are indecisive, flighty and flaky.
These guys are then brought even further into the
idea that all women arent attracted to nice
guys but just the jerks. Well, it just aint
so. If these guys dated and / or hung out with
quality women, who know what they want, do you
think that these guy's mindset would be the
Another thing to think about is this: It
doesnt matter if you act like a jerk to her
or not, hoping that this will somehow make you more
appealing to her
If she isnt attracted
to you in the first place! This jerk you always
hear or read about can still have problems
attracting some women. Its because
ISNT HER TYPE. IT DOESNT MATTER WHETHER
HE IS A JERK OR NOT. He himself may think he might
attract more women if he stops being a jerk to
them. Ironic, isnt it?
Here is where this myth can be cleared up: She
doesnt want a doormat. She doesnt want
a guy who is TOO nice (wishy washy). She wants him
to be a little cocky, bratty and obnoxious, like a
man should be. She wants a nice, and especially
funny guy, but one who also acts like a man.
In other words
- He isnt needy and clingy; wishy washy.
He doesnt get pussy whipped. He wants that
relationship with her, but he will also leave
her at any time if she doesnt get rid of
the attitude. He can take and leave them at any
- He has no problem telling a beautiful woman
to kiss his ass if she is acting like a bitch
with an attitude, whether she is a stranger or
- He doesnt do everything a woman asks
him to do. She is not ALWAYS right.
- He gives her hell once in a while, he tells
her what he thinks when she does dumb
but, he does it in moderation, and
in a constructive way.
- He makes his own decisions in his life. He
is not indecisive.
- He doesnt let people walk over him,
even his boss. He will tell his abusive boss to
shove it, and he will then go get another job,
even if it means moving to another town or city.
He is a confident, take-charge kind of a man,
like a man should be.
What woman likes a wimpy doormat? Women want a
man who has a combination of being a little cocky,
bratty and have a take-charge attitude
being nice and funny. She wants all these
qualities, not a doormat. You can be a bit of a
cocky rebel like Sean Penn, humorous like Jerry
Seinfeld, silly like Jim Carrey and nice, like you
usually are, all in one package. Many nice guys
dont do this...that so many women find
attractive in men. Thats why they are more
attracted to the bad boys and the jerks. The women
are attracted to these types of men because these
men are a bit of a rebel, they are cocky, they
speak their mind, and they dont bend over
backwards for women, or for people in general. They
act manly. But, the downside for the women is that
many of these guys are too much like jerks, and
they treat women poorly.
You want to have the whole package that she
wants, but dont abuse it to the point where
it makes you look like you have these scary
multiple personalities and / or mood swings.
Its hard to explain how to do a little of
each, so we hope you understand what we mean.
Also, heres another confusion: Women say
they want a man to be sensitive, but when he is, it
turns her off. It isn't because she doesn't know
what she wants, like so many men think of women,
it's because you, as a man, don't understand
When women say that, what they mean is that they
want him to be sensitive
to her feelings, to
understand what she is saying, and to listen to
her. It's not about being emotional, like crying at
a sad movie.
Why Do Some Women Stay With A Jerk/Bad Boy
Who Doesn't Treat Her Right?
Heres yet another confusing thing men want
an answer to
why would a woman stay with a man
who doesnt treat her right, or he is that bad
boy / jerk with an attitude?
Its because of one of two things, or
1- She is hoping she can change that part in
him. She is hoping she can get him to stop acting
like a jerk, yet he still retains those qualities a
man should have.
2- She thinks that if he leaves, he may change
and treat the other woman better. Yes, #2 is true.
Many, not all, women do believe that. The chances
are too high that he wont change, but many
women will hold on to hope. He may very well
change, but again, the chances are too great that
Now, what if she cant stop him from being
a jerk, and to be nicer but she STILL wants to be
with him? You have to question a woman who is like
that. A woman with a good head on her shoulders
will just leave if she knows she cant change
that part in him. Think about it
if she stays
in a rotten relationship with a jerk, isnt
this just a red flag waiving that tells you she is
not quite right in the head? Why would you want to
be with a woman like this, other than for a
one-night stand? If she has the kind of character
that has her being with jerks, WHAT ELSE IS WRONG
WITH HER? This kind of a woman is not worth
spending ANY quality time with.
Even the "jerks" and "bad boys" will eventually
drop her for another woman because there are other
bad, neurotic qualities about her. Her being
attracted to the wrong men is just a red flag
waiving that there are other bad qualities about
her that even a jerk and bad boy would have him
dropping her before too long.
What Does It Really Mean When She says,
"You're A Nice Guy"?
If you watch dating shows, you probably seen
where the woman says to her date, "You're a nice
guy...." Then, after the date, the host of the
shows says, "Uh-oh. ... The dreaded nice guy line."
Again, this is something that is blown way out of
proportion. It's as if this happens all the
But, what exactly does it mean when a woman, who
isn't attracted to you in that way says that to
you? Would your immediate thought be of, "I need to
stop acting like such a nice guy!" That's the
typical thought. But, that doesn't make sense. All
you were doing is being nice to her, like she was
doing to you. You paid attention to what she was
saying, you asked her questions, to get to know
her, and you were the gentleman women like. So why
do so many men feel that they have to stop acting
like that??? You didn't do anything wrong, IF...you
didn't act OVERLY nice, try to overly impress her,
and you had an attitude that you do want to get to
know her, but if it doesn't work out, there is
always another woman to take her place.
Here's something else most men don't get:
When a woman, who isn't interested in you in
that way says that you are a nice guy, it means
EXACTLY just that. You ARE a nice guy, but she
isn't interested in you in that way. You just
weren't her type, that's all. Also, when a woman
says this to a guy, it's just something to say to
him. It's sort of like when a man says to a woman,
"I'll call you," when he isn't interested in her.
... It's just something to say. And when they say
to each other at the end of the date, "Talk to you
later." Will they really talk later? Did a light
bulb suddenly come on in your head?
Here's one last thing to think about:
Hasn't there ever been a woman you weren't
interested in? How about that coworker or neighbor
who could be interested in you, but you aren't the
least bit interested in her? Is it really that big
of a deal when one person of the opposite sex isn't
attracted to another?
Why Do Nice Guys, Supposedly, Get Dumped On
All The Time?
It seems to be a common belief among men that
nice guys always get dumped on by their female
friends, or by women in general. Is that really
true, or is there something more to this than meets
I recently got the following e-mail from a man
who has this problem of always being called a nice
guy, but he can't find a woman who is attracted to
I helped a female work colleague get a
higher professional qualification. During this time
we became great friends, but sadly, nothing more.
She then went through the worst year of her life
(death of a parent, changing jobs, theft, car
problems, boss problems, etc). I became a shoulder
to cry on and gave lots of love and emotional
support. Things turned out well for her. She got
promoted to her dream job in the same area, and I
helped her find a new apartment, lent her money for
the deposit, and then spent a week of my holidays
helping her to do up the apartment. Gradually, over
a period of about a month, she distanced herself
from me. Later I found out that she had a
boyfriend. I unwittingly set up her apartment for
her and her boyfriend. I kinda quizzed her about
her boyfriend, in which she got a little angry with
me and told me it wasnt really any of my
business. Since then our friendship drifted
This is a typical story from nice guys who think
they get dumped on. They think that if they do
these nice things for her, she will then think of
him as more than just a friend. Typical.
What, you dont do nice things for your
male friends? Shouldnt it be the same when
doing nice things for women? Many women have
angrily commented that their male friends would do
nice things for them because they had another
agenda in mind. Okay, now is that being a friend to
The man who posted that apparently thought that
she would be so grateful for his help that she
would rush into his arms. Nearly all the time it
doesnt turn out that way, because nearly all
men are like this man, not telling her how he feels
about her. They then instead go, Boo, hoo! Nice
guys always finish last! They should make it clear
at the get go, rather than harboring these
expectations, which have now turned into
resentments. Guys like these have only themselves
Dont categorize the "users" with the women
just wanting to be friends because the friends
arent attracted to you in that way. You can
easily distinguish between the two. Though
its not clear if this man's "friend" was a
user or she was just mad at him because of the way
he acted, and all she thought they were were just
friends; that he was doing these things for her
because thats what friends do for one
Many women get pissed off at their male friend
who acts jealous / like a baby when she
doesnt show more than just a friendship to
him, and / or she is dating men other than him.
Here is a collection of statements from women on
why nice guys quite often do get left out in the
cold (Keeping in mind that women want a nice guy,
but not if he is TOO nice; wishy washy.):
1- If all you have is one failed relationship
after another, the only common denominator is YOU.
Think about it.
(This does make sense. After all, if you do keep
having failed relationships, or dates that
dont go past that first or second meeting,
maybe you should be looking at yourself. Many men
pick beautiful women who have nothing going for
them but their looks, but these guys expect more
from her, like being nice and thoughtful, when all
she has going for her is
JUST her looks.)
2- The biggest problem is that most nice guys
are insecure. They are so anxious to be liked and
loved that they will do things for other people to
gain acceptance and attention, rather than for the
simple pleasure of giving. Many times I dont
know if a nice guy really likes me for who I am, or
if he has attached himself to me because I paid him
some kind of attention. I want a nice guy, but not
3- There are women out there who zero in on nice
guys to take advantage of them. "Users" stroke a
nice guys ego, takes him for a ride, adds a
notch to their belts, and then moves on to the next
guy. Then these nice guys complain about women
being so horrible.
4- Nice guys go overboard. They bring flowers to
a "lets get together" coffee date. They try
to buy her affections with presents and fancy
things. They laugh at her jokes that arent
even funny. They hang on to every word with such
zealousness. I want a guy to listen to me, but
relax about it, will ya!
5- They are so desperate to please that they put
aside their own needs to jump on mine.
6- More than loving the woman in his life, a
nice guy NEEDS her. "She is my life, my only source
" He is too clingy, he
doesnt have a life of his own.
7- Nice guys quite often help women who are
losers, they have neurosis and personality
problems. These guys think that by "helping" these
women, it will make him a better, more loveable
person. She will appreciate and love him. Then when
she turns around and treats him like shit, he then
says: "This is what I get for being a nice
8- They start out being our friends, and then,
overtime, they think we owe them something more
than friendship, just because we are of the
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